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Good morning y’all and welcome to Moving the Ancient Boundaries. Today Mattie Colby of Gay Lewis’ Mattie’s Choice is joining us. Good morning Mattie, I’m sure my readers will enjoy learning a little bit about you before they read your story.  

Thank you for having me, Mrs. Gates, and as you said, my name is Mattie Colby. I grew up in a loving home. My father is English and my mother is Cherokee. My dad is a builder who patterned our home after Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello. Most of Osage Country admires and envies it. My father acquired land in Oklahoma Territory during the land rush of 1893. He was too young to make the first one in 1889. My mother’s ancestors endured the Trail of Tears. I have a twin brother, Maury and three sisters. Maury and I are the first born. By intuition, we know what the other thinks and feels and he is my best friend. We were looking forward to graduating high school together, but I quit school and eloped with Jessie. Maury still grieves over my choice.

I’ve recently read a book about The Trail of Tears, so very sad. I too have Cherokee blood lines. Where do you live, and why do you choose to live there?

I was barely seventeen when Jesse Colby courted me and convinced me to elope. We live in rural Oklahoma, about fifty miles from Tulsa. Jesse’s family came from Kentucky. His brother tried to convince him to move us to Galveston, Texas, but Jesse decided we’d stay in Oklahoma. I loved Jesse so much, I would a followed him anywhere.

Will you share a quirk of your personality that people don’t know?

I’m smarter than most people realize. Well, Maury knows, but he’s the only one.

What obstacles did you overcome in order to reach your happily-ever-after?

Oh heavens to Betsy! I let Jesse rule my thoughts and actions. He became controlling and violent. I didn’t discover his temper until after we married. My sister-in-law and best friend, Ella, tried to convince me I was wrong to live with abuse, but I didn’t listen.  I was addicted to Jesse’s manipulation.

Yes, I know. When we’re in love we tend to overlook what we don’t want to see. But what characteristics attracted you to Jesse?

The first time I ever saw Jesse, I thought him handsome. And smart? Oh my! He can work wonders with a Tin Lizzy. He’s eight years older than me, but I knew he was a good provider. He’d already accomplished so much when we met.

How long had you known him?

Not long enough. We courted about six months before we married. Jesse tells me he fell in love with me on first sight. But silly me, stupid pride and jealousy got in my way. When he told me, he’d court a friend of mine if I didn’t marry him, I eloped with him. Looking back now, I should have waited till I was older. I should have gotten better acquainted with him. I’ve finally realized I let him bully me into marriage.

Oh, my dear, how did you make it through those years of turmoil and daily fear?

My faith. I prayed constantly. Divorce was rare in my day, and the church frowned upon it. God gave me the strength to do what I had to do.

Did you ever decide to stop Jesse and his tirades?

Yes, but it took me too long to make that choice.

Do you mind if we share just a short blurb from the book, Mattie?

Oh, please do. I look forward to others reading my story and hope they will learn quicker’n I did.

Jesse closed the short distance between them and bent to her eye level. Mattie’s knees grew weak as he trapped her against the cupboard. Her heart raced with the speed of a cheetah. If only she could step aside, but she found no place to move in the little kitchen.

“No more, you understand? You will not see or speak to that brother of yours again. I don’t like him, and he doesn’t like me.”

What do you hope readers will take away from your story?

Life and limb come first. Protect yourself and children. Don’t live in fear and danger. I hope there are women out there who will help women like me. We need more shelters. We need laws to protect us against partners who abuse us.

Mattie, you’re one brave and blessed lady. I hope my readers will tell their friends about the lessons you’ve shared, friends who may be following that long hard road behind you.

Mrs. Gates, thanks for letting me talk to you and tell you my story. I hope you’ll help me get the word out. I don’t want others to ever go through what I did. Tell young women to learn as much as they can about a man before they marry.

How can they do that, Mattie? Oh, what’s that?

The list I wished I’d had, but now they do. Three key imperatives—Investigate. Observe. Analyze.

Talk to your intended. Discuss how you will rear children. Ask and wait for answers about their faith and their church. Will you two have a budget? Who will pay the bills? And pay attention to the likes and dislikes of your family and friends. Do they like the man? Learn before you leap.

It has been so insightful talking with you today, Mattie. I am anxious to begin your story tonight. And dear readers, you can order your copy of Mattie’s story on Amazon.com. And remember Christmas is coming…order a couple for friends’ Christmas gifts.

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BUT WAIT… Gay Lewis has a gift for one blessed reader today…leave a comment here and Thursday, September 21st, we will draw to see who wins the ebook of MATTIE’S CHOICE!

So stay tuned to see if that reader is you!


Here are some fast facts you might want to consider about domestic violence…You probably know at least one woman who is being or has been abused. And we are responsible to teach our daughters what to look for and how to help them!

Fast Facts on Domestic Violence


  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44 in the United States, more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. (“Violence Against Women, A Majority Staff Report,” Committee on the Judiciary, United States Senate, 102nd Congress, October 1992, p.3.)
  • There are 1,500 shelters for battered women in the United States. There are 3,800 animal shelters. (Schneider, 1990).
  • Three to four million women in the United States are beaten in their homes each year by their husbands, ex-husbands, or male lovers. (“Women and Violence,” Hearings before the U.S. Senate Judiciary Committee, August 29 and December 11, 1990, Senate Hearing 101-939, pt. 1, p. 12.)
  •  One woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds in the United States. (Uniform Crime Reports, Federal Bureau of Investigation, 1991).
  • One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.


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A native Texan, Gay’s written and produced videos and for over ten years, she used her imaginative insight in the interior design field. As a pastor’s wife, she writes Faith Features for various church periodicals. She also writes articles for Texas Hill Country.  Gay is a published author for Pelican Book Group in romance and fantasy fiction. Her current series is about a dyslexic angel who comes to earth to help humans, but Sarah, the angel, is more like Lucy Ricardo with humorous antics and bumbles. Her latest books, Mattie’s Choice, and Clue into Kindness are not fantasy and romance. These books are women’s fiction. The stories are about abusive men and women who are addicted to an unhealthy relationship.


The books are available in print, eBook, and audio.

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A beautiful lady appearing on the cooking channel this week made a scrumptious looking orange pudding cake and I thought that looks yummy. I can make that recipe.

So, last evening I gathered the ingredients and combined them, step-by-step. I placed the ramekins in a baking dish and filled the container with water for their thirty minute beauty-bath.

Fifteen minutes into the cooking process I turned around and, holy-moley, hisses of steam gushed out the seams in the oven door, followed by an explosion, and the sound of shattering, breaking glass.

I yanked open the door and gawked at a baking dish in a zillion DSCF4450pieces on the racks, falling into the sizzling water filling the bottom of my oven. A fine layer of glass slivers lay scattered across the top of the partially baked cakes.

Slamming the door shut I reached for the cancel switch, punched it, and stood cemented to the floor. Shocked. Conferring with myself I asked, What happened? What should I do? And answered, Can’t do anything ‘til the temperature cools.

Oh my beautiful cakes. What a waste. What a mess.

I cleaned up the fragments, slivers and pieces of glass after dinner and thought how much worse it could have been. The dish could have held a grits, eggs, and cheese—not just water.

Thank you, Lord.

This morning I described the accident to a friend and she asked, “Did you put hot or cool water in the dish?”

“Why, I put boiling water in the dish. Aren’t you supposed to?”

“No.” She said, “The temperature difference must have caused theDSCF4452 dish to break.”

“Fifteen minutes into the process?” I asked.

I’m so thankful God doesn’t plunge us into boiling water to transform us into what He intends us to become. However, the moment we come to Jesus, confessing, repenting, and trusting Him DSCF2349to save us and wash us clean from the guilt of sin, the water bath of our sanctification begins.

Day by day—moment by moment, God controls the temperature of the conforming process, just like the silversmith purifying silver.

The smith heats the silver warmer and warmer, little by little, skimming the dross as it separates and floats to the top. Always controlling the heat. Not too hot, nor too cold. Watching as the impurities come to the surface, he scoops them out of the pot. Over and over this process is repeated until the silversmith can gaze into the pot and see his reflection in the purified silver.
Just like Jesus does with each one of us.

Does the refining process at times seem unbearable? Oh yes. And the whirlwinds of life tragic? Certainly. But God has promised He will never leave us or forsake us and “God causes all things together for good to those that love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son…” (Romans 8:28-29 NAS). And all includes even the bad stuff.

I’m not a quick-study and sometimes I don’t listen or follow directions. As evidenced by the mess in my oven last night. But my Father in Heaven is merciful and patient. Scripture tells me, “The Lord’s lovingkindnesses indeed never cease, forDSCF3352 His compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is Thy faithfulness” (Lamentations 3:22-23 NAS).

He shapes and molds my character everyday, changing me into the image of His Son. But I often don’t learn ‘til He turns up the heat, allowing painful situations to surface, sending me running back to my Savior and Lord—Jesus Christ.

Have explosions of disobedience and rebellion left shattered slivers of sin’s fall-out scattered over your not-done-yet image in the mirror? Please don’t despair, God’s grace, mercy, and love is extended to you this day.

By the confession of your mouth and repentance of your heart, allow the water-bath of His Word and the fire of trials to bring the dross to surface. He gathers the sins of His own people, DSCF4115casting them behind His back—into the depths of the sea. Never to be remembered again.

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