“You can’t stop birds from flying over your head, but you sure can keep ‘em from building a nest there.”
Mama’s voice still resonates in my ears and I can see her stern expression as she repeated her reprimand for any type of unbecoming behavior I displayed during my teen years.
Now I’ve never allowed these winged creatures to build nests in my hair, but I’ve sure built some nasty nests in my mind.
Little by little, bit by bit, I collected trashy anger, strings of pain, and lint balls of jealousy and carefully poked them into the dark corners of my mind. I harbored those fragments of left-over animosity and replayed the tape—over and over again.
Ever done that?
Or have you captured broken twigs of disappointment and leaves of shame to feed the growing tangled nest of emotions? And tucked them away ‘til you were trapped in an emotional time-bomb of depression and self-pity dragging you into a quagmire from which you could not extract yourself?
Let me explain.
We live near a wetland area where eagles nest. Cameras set up by the wetland officials revealed skulls of ducks and skunks left in the nest. Nests are temporary shelters for baby birds to grow ‘til they can fly, not permanent homes. Nasty places filled with particles of animal remains, bugs, and unspeakable refuse. And the refuse we pile in our mind is no different and just as nasty.
God created us in His image and in the 15th Chapter of John gives us the cure for our self-destructive hoarding habits. Jesus said:
“Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you, unless you abide in Me. I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me, and I in him, he bears much fruit; for apart from Me you can do nothing. If anyone does not abide in Me, he is thrown away as a branch, and dries up; and they gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned. If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it shall be done for you. By this is My Father glorified, that you bear much fruit, and so prove to be My disciples. Just as the Father has loved Me, I have also loved you; abide in My love. If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love; just as I have kept My Father’s commandments, and abide in His love” (John 15:4-10 NAS).
In these six verses Jesus tells us to abide in Him ten times. And He gives us conditional promises if we do and lays out the consequences if we don’t.
Are we to have a part-time home in the tangled mess of past heartaches? Absolutely not.
Abide is the Greek verb meno and means to stay, continue, dwell, endure, be present, remain, stand, tarry.
Oh my, could that be why God’s people are in so much trouble? Why our families are falling apart? Why our nation is on the brink of disaster? We fail to stay, dwell, endure, remain in Him, in His Words, in His commandments, in His love.
I have read these words many times, but three weeks ago conviction stabbed to the depths of my heart and soul. I was not abiding in Jesus.
Had I missed Sunday services? Of course not, but once in the car on the way home my mind shifted gears. Did I neglect to pray at night? No. I always mumbled incoherent thanks for the day and His blessings before my eyes closed. Didn’t I? And I always read that little devotional blurb at night.
Dr. Paul David Tripp says, “We trouble our own trouble.” And that’s exactly where I had lived for months. Troubling my own trouble. Choosing to spend more and more time in the nasty nest of anguish, plucking at lint and strings, wondering why I couldn’t soar with the eagles.
“Today I start a new chapter in my life.
I close the door to the past and open the door to the future, take a deep breath and step into my new life.”
Abiding in Jesus is a choice we must make every day. And I’m so grateful God’s mercies to us are new every morning. His love never fails and His arms are outstretched to those whose hearts are toward Him. Jesus’ blood washes all my sin away and He fills me with His joy.
What about you? Where are you spending your time? Abiding in Jesus or sinking in a nasty nest of anguish? You don’t have to keep traveling the same painful road. Give all your heartache to Jesus and abide with Him. He’s waiting. Just for you.
“Brokenness is realizing He is all we have.
Hope is realizing He is all we need.
Joy is realizing He is all we want.”
Thank you, DiAne. I’ve been sitting in that nest for far too long. I have allowed my own personal fears and pain, as well as sadness (and even anger) over some of my friends’ personal trials to fester in my brain. I was praying about this in the early morning because even my dreams lately seem to be filled with pain. Your words reminded me that I have to make a choice daily to take those things to God and leave them there.
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Dear Tracy, it is a daily struggle that we can’t win by ourselves. But Jesus promises us the victory, because He overcame. I will be praying for you to deposit those rogue emotions in the arms of our Savior and leave them there. Thank you for your transparency that will help others face their own battle.
DiAne
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“and replayed the tape—over and over again. Ever done that?” SO guilty of that time-wasting activity! From here on out, instead of being a little sad when I see an abandoned nest, I’ll think of this post and celebrate that the birds grew and left it behind to move to a better environment – the one they’re suppose to be in now that they have matured – it will serve as a wonderful reminder that’s what I’m suppose to be doing. Thanks, DiAne!
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Shel, that’s exactly what I had been doing the past six months. And I know better. I’m a GriefShare facilitator. But we’re all flawed humans. The good news is God doesn’t leave us in our mess. His plans for us are for good, nor for evil, to give us a hope and a future. If we will only listen and trust Him.
DiAne
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Good, wise words…as always!
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God let’s us go through things to share with others how He shapes, molds, and grows us. Thanks for reading and responding. Waiting for your next book.
DiAne
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I have built my share of nests. I thank God that he can and does remove the worn nests’ from me. He is always faithful to forgive and I have asked numerous times throughout my life. Good article DiAne.
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Thanks for reading and replying, Jimmy. If we’re honest, I think we are all certified nest builders. I praise God that His mercy is new every morning.
DiAne
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